today I saw a preteen girl pick up Mean Girls at Target and ask her friend what it was. She didn’t even know. She said it sounded dumb. The people are forgetting. The world is changed. I feel it in the water. I feel it in the earth. I smell it in the air. Much that once was is lost, for none now live who remember it.
- something lovely my therapist said (via jeanprouvair)
One of the responses I get when I tell people this is some variation of “No, this is a messed up thing for me to feel.” This is because they haven’t distinguished between feelings and beliefs; they may be feeling those feelings because their beliefs lead them to feel that way, and yeah, beliefs can be busted as hell. The feelings, however, are always valid. Even if they’re inconvenient, unpleasant, or threatening. For example, if you feel angry and sad and scared because you believe you’re a worthless pile of trash, that is a busted belief and needs to be gotten rid of. The feelings are still valid, though.
Whenever I meet someone who likes Harry Potter, I get really excited but I have to tell myself to calm down and be cool and tread carefully because chances are they just like Harry Potter and I don’t want to scare them off by unleashing the Harry Potter maniac monster within me in all its glory